Thursday, March 21, 2013

5 Things Every Girl Should Know Before Getting Married

You're engaged. 131 Likes & 21 Facebook comments later, everyone has built you up to think you are about to embark on the most magical, exciting time of your life. How did you get so lucky? Man, people should be really jealous of you.

Cut to 3 months later.

You're beginning to realize this process isn't all its chalked up to be. You start scrolling through your iPhone to find people you can vent to. Somehow the 131 people on Facebook have all disappeared. No one is answering ... which leads me to the first thing every girl should know before getting married ...



Nope, not your bridesmaids, not your mom, not even your fiance. Yes. It's that plain and simple. I know it's harsh, but it's true. If you can wrap your head around this little factoid from the beginning you will be better prepared for some major letdowns to come.

You are the only person who is constantly thinking about your wedding. Everyone else has their own lives to worry about. They have jobs, families, and work as well. So while the wedding is at the forefront of your mind, it's in the back of theirs.

Expect to be let down. Expect people to not call you back. Expect people to not show up when they say they will. If you go in with this mindset, the letdowns will feel a little less major and a little more minor. You'll realize it's not you, it's just the nature of the beast. They have lives too. And you can't fault them for that - which leads me to ...



We've all watched the show 'Bridezillas' on TV and thought, "What a bunch of whack jobs, thank God I'm so normal." Cut to me three weeks before my wedding crying on the phone and ranting about what's wrong with our healthcare system to a dental hygienist after receiving an outrageous dental bill in the mail. I already felt like I was hemorrhaging money and this was the last thing I needed. Crap. I'm not so 'normal' after all. Or am I?

It's like the world knows you are planning a wedding and really likes to kick you when you're down. It's easy to take your aggression out on other people. But try not to.

It's not just your day. It's your fiance's day too. And don't forget about your parents, friends, and family who've shelled out a lot of cash to be there and make this day possible.

So when you feel like you are about to snap, just picture a film crew around you, smile on the outside and cuss on the inside.



Yes I did. I just quoted Ice Cube. Even though we are taught to never talk about money, get ready to talk about it every day of your wedding planning life. It's awkward. It's not fun. No one prepares you for it, but it's something inevitably everyone has to do.

First and foremost, before you make any plans, take a long hard look at the kind of person you are financially. Are you the type of person who is okay with spending your savings of the past three years on a party? Or are you the type who will look back and wish you would have just put that money toward a house?

Be honest with yourself. I'm the type of person who was fine putting my own hard-earned savings toward the wedding. I knew it was one night, but it was a night that meant a lot to me and a memory that my family would cherish forever.

But some people aren't like that. And that's completely okay. Don't be influenced by what other people say you should do or be pressured to have a wedding you don't want to have. Go to the courthouse and take a once-in-a-lifetime trip instead. Be real and upfront with yourself from the beginning. You'll be left without a major bill, and most importantly, regrets.

This is crucial to your mental and financial well-being, even if it is derived from a rap song.



I hate when I hear brides say, "Well I didn't really get that drunk or have that much fun. I was too busy saying hello to everyone throughout the night."

This is the one night of your life where you are given a gift to travel back in time and get wasted with all of your friends on your parents tab. Basically it's going back to college, which is the greatest gift one can ever give.

Take advantage of it. Be in the moment. Forget about the part where the cake didn't turn out right and the napkins were peach and not rose. Have a drink. And then have another. Let loose and have fun with your new husband. You guys set the tone. If you guys are having a blast, then everyone else is sure to have one as well. And lastly ...



It's easy to get caught up in the budgets, programs, and seating charts. But don't forget what it's all about. You've found someone to kick it with for the rest of your life. And that isn't a simple feat.

Lots of people get caught up in the wedding which lasts a day, not the marriage which lasts a lifetime. Even though every other person on Facebook is posting pictures of weddings and babies, don't get caught up in the hype. And most importantly never settle. This isn't something to enter into lightly.

But if you think you're ready to take the leap, then do it. Drink, dance your ass off, and pause for 3 seconds that night to just take everything in. Time can stop if you let it.

Well hopefully I haven't scared you, but made you more aware of what you're getting yourself into. Because all of those fairy tales we've read have caused us to build castles that only crumble. But if you go into any situation with a more realistic Un-Bride perspective, you can say forget the fairy tale - I'll write my own story.




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